As posted in the comment section
My family has learned a lot about shunning from this blog. I had previously thought that only the Amish had this ridiculous practice. Now I find out that Pastor Sullivant and PVBC appear to be spearheading this unscriptural tradition in “Dependant” Fundamental Baptist Churches. He sure is leading by example. What he did to Laura was awful, regardless if there is “another side to this story”. From what I read, her life appears to have turned out well. He and his wife should be pleased. How could any dad, especially a Christian, ignore three beautiful little girls!!!
We also have a story with similarities to Laura’s, but with an different outcome. Our then seventeen year old daughter left home to go to university. One thing led to another and she rebelled against the Lord and against what we had taught her. While she was living in sin in the world, we still did not cut her off; even going as far as British Columbia from Ontario to maintain contact with her. The door was still open and the porch light was still on, so to speak. She was the constant object of our prayers, and we definitely did not pray for God to take her life. After a time she returned to the Lord in a dramatic fashion. We opened our arms to her and welcomed her back home, as any loving father and mother should. No questions asked. Had we not done so, she would have gotten lost, maybe even forever, in Europe. Her life could have turned out to be an absolute disaster. Instead, the Lord got a hold of her. For this we will praise God forever. She now has an awesome husband and three beautiful children. I cannot fathom life without them. How can a father cut off his daughter for twelve years, and call himself a man of God? Incidently, our pastor has never even asked her for her testimony about how she got saved. He appears to be too busy on the hot line to Winkler.
We have also experienced shunning - from Pastor Sullivant’s deputies - from our pastor - and from his family. This whole action was obviously indirectly inspired by PMS. Our Pastor holds him in high esteem - away too high, I believe. He is a big influence in our small congregation. Our IFBC is in a small community in South Western Ontario. Due to a matter over which we disagreed with our Pastor, we (three families) were asked to leave our church and to start one of our own. We refuse to leave, and most of the church agrees with us. The matter at the center did not even relate to doctrine. We had the audacity to question a matter relating to a particular practice in the church, and the Scriptural basis for it. After having been given “soul liberty”, we were then shown the door. Anyhow, since that time our names have been passed around to numerous IFBC in our region and beyond. Our reputation is mud. We are learning what happens when anyone has the nerve to question a DFBC pastor. D means Dependent, not Independent. One must jump when he tells you to, and ask how high on the way up. Incidently, we have only had one deacon for the past three years.
From one disillusioned dad and mom and their families
I am the one who wrote Anonymous. My name is David. In answer to the first comment, our constitution has no provision in it about removing a pastor. He calls and chairs all meetings. It is pretty simple. It is high time that DFBC members and pastors took their "winklers" off, so to speak. We have now left our former church; having been given the left foot of dissfellowship. Check out my web site at: www.willyouranchorhold.com
You will find it interesting.